EP.45. Personal Struggles 2 & Grieving the Loss of the Living

This week’s episode is a follow up to episode 23 where I spoke about my personal struggles with my father having a medical illness called Progressive supranuclear palsy (PSP) and how it has been affecting me mentally. I also take about grieving the loss of the living. I gave 3 tips to help process the grief.

Takeaways from this episode:
1. Feel the grief.
2. Cherish the memories.
3. Accept that the past is the past.

Resources Mentioned:
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/grieving-the-living-when-your-lost-loved-on-is-still_us_5a206399e4b05072e8b56722

EP. 44. In The Barber Shop

This week’s episode I speak my guest Charles Catchings. Charles and I talk about men and mental health, how important self-care is to men, cultural and social identity, we talk about vulnerability, and how a bunch of guys with problems is helping a bunch of guys with problems.

The Barber Shop Group is an umbrella organization that advocates for all men’s wellness while creating space for targeted groups to have serious discussions without fear of reprisal and shame. In today’s climate, many people shake their sticks at such an approach but my professional and personal experience has shown me the most effective way for our organization to advocate for men’s mental health. Currently, we have three media ventures: our podcast, a live weekly radio show allowing listeners to interact with a trained therapist, and an upcoming webtv talkshow. We host men’s retreats around the country allowing men to engage in group discussions of wellbeing and gain access to one-on-one counseling and mentoring, all while doing “guy” stuff.

Charles Catchings has been involved in mental health-care in a variety of capacities since 2003. I first started working in a boys’ group-home setting providing direct care and mentoring. I quickly found myself swept up into a world where men were sorely needed but absent. This was even truer of African-American men as many of the residents were either African-American or came from inner-cities nearby. Early in that experience, I learned a bit about my ability to connect and relate to the clients, in part due to my own background and my desire to be an open vessel for people in need. Though I maintained several jobs during that time, I realized I was to work in the capacity of mental health and healing. Later, I transitioned to working with juvenile sex offenders. This was one of the more challenging positions, requiring me to work through some of my own sexual trauma while trying to understand and guide young men who were often the victims of sexual violence or sexual avoidance unbeknownst to the public.

I was commended for my work with this group and was asked to join a team of clinicians working with deaf and hard-of-hearing clients with co-occurring disorders. I was challenged to provide the same level of care while learning an entirely new language -American Sign Language- to convey messages of healing and hope. Lastly, I was given the opportunity to work with male and female AOD clients and this is my current focus.

Takeaways from this episode:

It’s ok to be vulnerable.
It’s ok to focus on mental health.
Self caress just as important for men.

Where you can find The Barber Shop Group:

Email: charles.catchings@thebarbershopgroup.com

Web: www.thebarbershopgroup.com

Facebook: @thebarbershopgrp
Instagram: @thebarbershopgrp
Twitter: @thebarbershopgrp

EP. 43. Entrepreneurship & Mental Health

This week’s episode I speak my guest Dr. JaNaè Taylor. JaNaè and I talk about all things entrepreneurial from being an entrepreneur of color, mental health, how to set boundaries and promote self-care, we talk about being the BOSS, comparison, and the importance of social media.

Minding My BLACK Business is a movement and podcast dedicated to the mental health of Black Entrepreneurs, led by Dr. JaNaè Taylor. The goal is to engage, inform, and support other Black Entrepreneurs as they manage the business of work!

JaNaè is an Alabama native and a macaroni and cheese and brunch expert. She is also fluent in sarcasm, lover of neo-soul and big laughs with good people. Most importantly, JaNaè is a daughter, big sister, best friend, godmother, HBCU grad, and trying to make a dollar out of 15 cents.

JaNaè is a licensed psychotherapist in Virginia Beach, VA, where she owns and operates, Taylor Counseling and Consulting Services. JaNaè works with Black men and women who are struggling with harmful self-evaluations. Therapy with JaNaè helps them create a more empowered and focused sense of self that is more aligned with their beliefs and values. JaNaè also provides consultations to Black Entrepreneurs, in every stage of the game, who are working to balance their mental health, Black identity, and successful businesses.

Consultations with JaNaè result in clearer expectations and greater understanding of how to manage self while executing their business identity.

Takeaways from this episode:

We work better together.
Search out black businesses on your community and support them.
Check-In on your Mental Health and do preventive care.

Where you can find Dr. JaNaè Taylor:

Web: www.mindingmyblackbusiness.com

Facebook: @mindingmyblackbusiness
Instagram: @mindingmyblackbusiness
Twitter: @mindingmyblackbiz

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Ep. 42 Adversity & Poundcake

This week’s episode I speak with a returning guest. Crystal Joseph and I talk about how to use music/hip hop to cope and promote self-care, we talk about being human beings not human doings and learn how to just be, work on your own timeline. We also speak on stress, adversity, and business.

Crystal is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the State of Maryland, Licensed Professional Counselor in the Commonwealth of Virginia, National Certified Counselor, and Board-Certified Case Manager. Holding a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology, Crystal’s clinical training includes: Cognitive Behavior Therapy within individual, family, and group therapy settings. Crystal specializes in Anxiety, Depression, Racial Identity formation, and Cultural Trauma in African-Americans. Her love for psychology began in high school after completing college-level psychology classes. She obtained a Bachelor of Arts in Developmental Psychology from the College of William and Mary with a secondary major of Black Studies. As the author of Conversation with A Clinician of Color: Likeness, Lucy & Lemonade, and POUNDCAKE & Private Practice: Five Things I Learned During my First Year. Crystal hopes to break down the stigma of seeking mental health treatment in the Black community with first-person commentary.

Where you can find Crystal:
Web: www.poundcakeandprivatepractice.com
Instagram: @poundcakeandprivatepractice
Twitter: @poundcakeandpp

Resources and Books Mentioned:
Conversation with A Clinician of Color: Likeness, Lucy & Lemonade
POUNDCAKE & Private Practice: Five Things I Learned During my First Year

Ep. Ep. 41. Depression & Suicide Shedding Light in the Darkness

Talking Off The Couch podcast focuses on mental health and mental wellness within the community of color. Tatiana Smith who is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas, Texas decided that it is time to shed light and break stigmas about mental health/wellness in the communities of color. This podcast is a voice for the mental health community as well as the average person. Talking Off The Couch will make you feel Ok about not being Ok.

This week’s episode I speak with my guest Mental Health Advocate T-Kea Blackman. T-Kea shares her story about suicide, depression diagnosis, hospitalization, and why she wants to be a voice for mental health. We also speak on the church and lack of support. T-Kea wants to educate and help bridge the gap of mental health.

T-Kea Blackman is a mental health advocate, speaker and writer who lives by the Toni Payne quote, “I rather be living my truth happily than living a lie miserably.” She is the creator and host of the Fireflies Unite Podcast, a weekly podcast dedicated to bringing light into darkness (just like the fireflies) by sharing the stories of individuals thriving with mental illness within communities of color despite the disadvantages and racism that negatively impact their mental health. T-Kea’s articles have been published on The Mighty, Urban Faith, Blavity, and 21 Ninety. Making a digital footprint, her articles have garnered over 50,000 views and encouraged individuals to seek treatment.

To follow T-Kea’s journey and listen to her podcast, visit www.firefliesunite.com and connect with her @firefliespod on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

Where you can find T-Kea Blackman:

Web: www.firefliesunite.com

Facebook: @firefliespod
Instagram: @firefliespod
Twitter: @firefliespod

Resources and Books Mentioned:
NAMI

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If you are interested in working with Tatiana as a therapist you can find out more about her services at www.tsmithcounseling.com

If you have questions or would like to discuss sponsorship opportunities, email us at: talkingoffthecouch@gmail.com


Ep. 40. Autism In Color

This week’s episode I speak with my guest therapist Maria Davis-Pierre about Autism In Black. Maria informed us on what autism is, how involving culture within treatment is important, who are the 3 doctors you should seek when looking for a diagnoses, the importance of support, and how to ensure your child is treated fairly in the school system.

Maria Davis-Pierre is the founder of Autism in Black Inc. She is a therapist, coach, speaker, and advocate. After going through the process of getting her daughter diagnosed at 18 months, Maria changed her specialty and began working heavily in the Autism community. In January of 2018 Maria launched her 2nd private practice Autism in Black Inc., which aims to provide support to black parents who have a child on the spectrum, through educational and advocacy services. Autism in Black Inc. is dedicated to bringing awareness and acceptance to Autism Spectrum Disorder and reducing the stigma associated with ASD in the black community.

Maria is a licensed mental health counselor (LMHC) in the state of Florida. She graduated from Florida State University with a Bachelors of Science in Sociology and went on to obtain a Masters of Science in Mental Health Counseling from Nova Southeastern University. Maria is currently working on her Ph.D. in Family Therapy from Nova as well.

Maria’s passion is being an autism advocate with her mission being to bring awareness to the impact culture can have regarding an ASD diagnosis. You can go to www.autisminblack.org to subscribe to the monthly newsletter and check out all the other great resources on the site.

Where you can find Maria Davis-Pierre:

Email: info@autisminblack.org

Web: http://www.autisminblack.org/

Facebook: @autisminblk
Instagram: @autisminblack
Twitter: @autisminblack

Resources and Books Mentioned:

https://m-chat.org/

https://www.autismspeaks.org/family-services/resource-guide

Resource Library

http://www.wrightslaw.com/

Ep. 39 Addiction and Codependency

This week’s episode I speak with my guest therapist Shemiah Derrick about how addiction can be more then drugs and alcohol it can be behavioral, personality, or shopping. We will also talk about codependency, what it is and how to change this behavior. Lastly, Shemiah will give us three ways we can identify addiction.

Shemiah Derrick is a psychotherapist in Chicago. She works with individuals, couples and families in both the community mental health and private practice setting and focuses on anxiety, stress, depression, life transitions, self-efficacy and trauma.
She is committed and passionate about working with those who are concerned about unhealthy patterns or those struggling with addictive tendencies, helping to reduce harm and better manage urge-driven behaviors.

In addition to being a skilled psychotherapist, she regularly contributes and is cited in a variety of media resources as an expert on mental health issues. She received her Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Roosevelt University (Chicago, IL) and has obtained
certifications in Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), Alcohol and Other Drug Abuse (AODA) Counseling and Domestic Violence Advocacy.

She was most recently selected as a Featured Expert for Marriage.com to provide guidance and advice for married couples and individuals who are in, looking to be in or improve their dating relationships.

Where you can find Shemiah Derrick:

Email: findpeace@shemiahderrick.com

Web: ShemiahDerrick.com

Instagram: @shemiahderrick
Twitter: @shemiahderrick

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Ep. 38. Hip Hop & Mental Health

This week’s episode I speak with my guest therapist Robert Fields about how hip hop and therapy can led to mental healing. You will hear how you can intertwine hip hop and mental health, mental health and incarceration, and the importance of mental health awareness/education within the community.

Robert Fields, M.A. is a Licensed Psychological Associate (LPA) based in Durham, NC, and has been providing psychological services for 15 years. Rob has worked with a variety of clients including veterans, adjudicated youth in the juvenile justice system, and individuals with developmental disabilities. Currently, Rob works with incarcerated men within the prison system. Also, he works at a private agency providing services to families, teens, emerging adults, and men.

Rob is known for incorporating hip hop in treatment and in mental health education. He uses social media to pair mental health information with hip hop culture. He also knows firsthand the challenges of dealing with depression and is passionate about working with males around mental health concerns. Rob works to educate and to help reduce the stigma by making the topic of mental health more relatable, useful, and transparent.

In addition to his clinical practice, Rob is very active in his community. He is the Director of Community Outreach for Black Jedi Zulu, a hip hop oriented community service organization founded by Grammy Award-winning producer 9th Wonder in Raleigh, NC. Furthermore, he regularly volunteers with various causes in the community. Finally, Rob mentors students in the mental health field and early-career clinicians.

Where you can find Robert Fields:

Instagram: @mosley17

Twitter: @mosley17

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If you are interested in working with Tatiana as a therapist you can

find out more about her services at www.tsmithcounseling.com

If you have questions or would like to discuss sponsorship

opportunities, email us at: talkingoffthecouch@gmail.com

EP. 37 Therapy and Cosmetology

This week’s episode I speak with my guest therapist Zeahlot Lopez about how Cosmetology led to therapy. You will learn what it’s like to be a Latina therapist, working with people of color and the importance of mental health awareness/education within the community.

Zeahlot Lopez is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Cosmetologist helping humans rebuild their spirit. Guided by her intuition, clinical training, life experiences, and some luck she currently helps individuals and families lead a happier life! Aside from providing mental health services to better the lives of her clients, she enjoys providing coaching services to entrepreneurs and those looking to increase their emotional intelligence. She enjoys comedy, singing in her shower, and cooking new dishes.

Where you can find Zeahlot Lopez:

Web: http://www.vidatherapy.co

Instagram: @vidatherapy

Podcast hashtag #talkingoffthecouch and #TOTCpodcast
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If you are interested in working with Tatiana as a therapist you can find out more about her services at www.tsmithcounseling.com

If you have questions or would like to discuss sponsorship opportunities, email us at: talkingoffthecouch@gmail.com


EP. 36. Family Drama Tips

This week’s episode I give 5 Tips to deal with Family Drama.

1. Understand we cannot change our family or people.

2. Set Boundaries and maintain them.

3. Do not relinquish or release your power.

4. Identify the source early on.

5. Understand that the drama might not have to deal specifically with you.